By Evi Kalouta, Psychologist-Psychotherapist, Embryolab
As the days of this unprecedented period pass, the psychic body of us all strives to find balance and adapt to constantly new data.
What is the bet on our psychology?
Maintain a perspective that is auxiliary, without though suppressing our healthy reactions to the difficulty that we are experiencing.
Our daily routine has taken on a completely different form, so suddenly, so violently and at the same time … so protective! “We stay at home” with all the help this can bring to our health, our family, our society, our lives. But we stay home and experience a series of losses – from whether the sun will see us to how we can survive financially. From seeing and feeling our own people, to the important dreams and goals we have for our lives.
Consequences of these changes?
▪ Fear and anxiety about the future (from tomorrow to the next).
▪ Anger for all that we “need” to manage at their full cost.
▪ Sorrow for what is happening. And because what happens is we have to live it in all its glory. Because life is made up of twists that always surprise us with how shocking it can be.
Yes, it is possible for the body and soul to react. Ask for help at times, look for ways to express their discomfort alive. Talk about how we feel, how we eat, whether we sleep well, how we work in each day.
OK then,
let’s sit back for a moment and take a breath. Let the shoulders fall loosely into place and our body into the seat. Let’s allow our self to be “the one who knows” how to support us through this unprecedented challenge.
And as we protect our physical body from the corona virus, let’s see how the psychic responds: What would it take for it to work better? So we do not feel strained and beyond our limits? – We answer in a simple but meaningful way.
I defend my psychology by:
✓ Taking care of the information and updates I receive, as I do for all other subjects which matter to me. By not being the receptor to information that tire me, but only to the ones that help me. Without recycling them while feeding me negativity that annoys my body.
✓ Allowing me to be who I am, without feelings like I am “abandoning myself at the mercy of my emotions”. By recognizing that yes, I can go through different emotional stages and that “it’s okay – I’ll take care of them”. They cannot destroy me – neither now, nor ever.
✓ Getting in touch with people who resonate with me, who relax me, who I can share things with, and they with me.
✓ Not trying to relax myself with a cigarette or a drink. I am definitely made with mechanisms that can help me without necessarily hurting me.
✓ And yes, it may not be the easiest thing to have a perfect diet while staying home for days, but I can give myself a few minutes to energize my body (a few stretching exercises, a little workout, a dance, whatever !). Come on … I can!!
✓ Thinking long term. I need perspective. We are experiencing a period that does not concern the rest of our lives. I am dealing with it now, but I look ahead.
✓ Not questioning my ability to make this path go, as well as not blaming me for anything I didn’t do earlier.
✓ Maintaining balance -> I take responsibility to help me and not to trap me!
I want to have a baby … And the obstacle that I am dealing with right now, among so many others that I could have already faced, is incredible…
The concept of creation needs so much patience and love. Creation always draws attention and it is the image of the future, it is the aftermath, it is life. And the creator? It is a creation powered by its roots.
Give yourself everything, stay with him and dream about him. Take care of him and believe in his dreams. And allow him to withstand the difficulties, showing him the ways out of this and not just the obstacles.
I stay home – I stay strong